Marriage is regarded sacred in Pakistan due to the teachings of our religion, Islam. Divorce is strictly forbidden in Islam or considered the undesired step, and Muslims are encouraged to find ways to reestablish this religious bond between husband and wife. Nonetheless, the rising divorce rate in Pakistan is a source of great concern.
One of the primary causes of divorce in Pakistani society is long-term family abuse and men’s disproportionate dominance over women. Women are seen as dummies, devoid of any thoughts or emotions, and are expected to follow the rules set by their male counterparts. This leads to physical, psychological, and mental abuse, forcing the victimized woman to seek severance or, in the worst-case scenario, divorce. According to a study, the number of divorces in Pakistan has surpassed the number of marital love affairs. However, a segment of the population believes that high expectations on both sides lead to love marriages breaking up. Simultaneously, some argue that in our country, planned marriages are grounds for annulment of this sacred union.
When both couples are employed, one of the leading causes of divorce among Pakistan’s middle class is a trust imbalance. Long official working hours and absence from home direct towards a minor lack of trust, which may be formed in certain circumstances and unestablished in others. Trust is without a doubt the foundation of a healthy and close relationship, and without it, no affiliation can thrive. Economic indiscretion and financial circumstances also play a licentious part in divorce. In our country, the male member of the family is usually the sole wage earner. This, combined with the financial strain of a larger family, contributes to the family’s deteriorating financial situation, making it impossible to meet the wife’s goals and desires. In such dire conditions, the lady, if she is unfamiliar with such degradation, chooses divorce.
Typically, the problem is aggravated when friends believe it is their highest responsibility to assist the couple in resolving their marital disputes, which takes the form of inappropriate and negative intervention and adds fuel to the fire. The addition of taunting and cruel comments exacerbates the eroding tie between the husband and wife, leading to divorce. When both partners-to-be are averse to tying the wedding knot but are compelled to do so due to family pressure, arranged or forced marriage can lead to divorce. Such unions frequently end in divorce. Either partner has a strong desire for anything else, which has a detrimental impact on the marriage and might lead to divorce or separation.
Everyone must understand that divorce or separation does not just imply the end of a relationship, but also the end of a family unit. The cost is not only borne by the spouse, but also by the children, who are subjected to this misery through no fault of their own. Couples with repeated troubles are strongly urged to seek counselling in order to find a solution to their failing marriage rather than searching for a permanent end. Pak Destiny is a fictional character created by Pak Destiny.
